I was at work on a Sunday this past March when I got the email from my friend that my dear friend Joel died suddenly the night before. I remember how I felt, like someone had punched me in the stomach. Like I had been here before. I had.

I felt the same way 12 years ago today. Sitting at breakfast at my parents house when we got the call from my brother that Aviva had died. That same feeling. Hearing my mother on the phone yelling no, and how could this be.

As I am sitting here staring at the screen I am thinking about both Joel and Aviva and  how many similarities I can find of their spirits. Both taken from us way too soon.

Larger than life personality – There is a presence that some people have when the walk into a room, people take notice. I know that could be said of Aviva as I was witness to it many times. I will tell you I was often in awe of her and her presence. Joel was the same way at work. Even when he lived in Calgary and we had web calls with him, his personality jumped through the phone.

Big Laughs – Both Joel and Aviva had infectious laughs. Even if you were at the other side of the room, you could hear their laughter.

Big Hearts – both of them had a deep rooted love for their roots. I know that Aviva did volunteer work in Guelph and Joel’s long lasting memories are sharing Shabbat photos every Friday wishing his friends and family Shabbat Shalom. Greg has carried on that tradition and even though it makes me sad to know he isn’t here any more, it is comforting to know that his memory does live on in the photos and the gesture of the good wishes.

I think I said this last year but I think my eldest niece and Aviva would have been great buddies. She too is a large presence, funny, great laugh and a wise mind. I watched my niece at camp a few weeks ago and was in awe of her spirit as well. I can’t wait to see what is in store for her as she moves forward in her life.

I will give some thought and pause today and remember Aviva and the lasting impression she had on my life. It is a spark that I don’t think will ever be extinguished.

Love you and miss you V,

Lisa